From Soul with Love

This past summer I wrote a post called From Soul with Love. There’s a couple good things in that post but it is also incomplete. The general overarching theme of that post revolves around the idea that Love is the opposite of Fear.

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Love and anything done from and with Love is an act of rebellion in today’s world. Most people in today’s world are going through the motions in their day to day life just to get to the end and do it all again. We live in a world full of noise and chaos that we struggle to find moments for ourselves. The truth is the moments for ourselves and the things we do for ourselves are acts of love. If we continue to run and chase the ideas and expectations laid out by us from other people we will never truly be satisfied in life. If we can’t find satisfaction and joy from ourselves, then we are just running and chasing fear.

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I did this. I know what it is like but I also have learned that that doesn’t need to be the case. In order to truly live a life of love we need to live a life where we can come back to ourselves. We need a grounded and regulated nervous system so we can truly love. Not just in the romantic sense or the platonic way but as an act and way of being.

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I’m lucky that I am surrounded by so many people and friends who live the love of their heart loudly (y’all know who you are). But I also know that their doing that has not always been easy. There have been times when they have chased accolades or external validation for their actions. Or they had tried to fit into a certain scenario in hopes that they would find belonging and connection. I have done this in my personal life and the only thing it did was bring me further away from who I wanted to be and who I believe that I am.

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However by doing that we are living in fear, which as I have explained extensively before is the opposite of love. So how do we live and find a life in alignment of love. The simple answer is to follow our hearts. But how exactly do we do that? The truth is, it is quite simple. Our hearts react to things before our bodies and minds do. The electric aspect of our heart is 50x stronger than our brain and the magnetic aspect of our heart is 5000x stronger than our brain. Our Heart ALWAYS knows best.

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Our heart has 40,000 neurons and the ability to process, learn, and remember. It also has its own emotions. While this is normally thought of as something that just our brain does, our heart has similar qualities and as such can help us regulate and control our nervous system and find a regulated system.

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I am going to deep dive into what it means to find a regulated nervous system later, but if you want a good overview feel free to check out this post from awhile back. The general understanding and take away for what is to come below is that regulated nervous systems allow us to process and lead from the heart. While deregulated systems have us acting in fear and always chasing something.

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Anyways back to our heart and brain connection, this connection is referred to as the heart-brain coherence.

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This coherence is the state when the heart, mind, and emotions are in energetic alignment and cooperation. When the parasympathetic and the sympathetic system are out of sync from emotions such as anger, anxiety, or frustration, this produces an erratic rhythm or incoherent state which leads to a deregulated system. The brain receives this input which affects whether higher cognitive functions can be accessed to self-regulate.

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Positive emotions and doing things that feel expressive of our heart and soul generate positive responses and rhythms for our heart which help us come into energetic alignment. The more situations and actions that we can pursue that generate these positive rhythms the more we can raise our brain-heart coherence and the greater impact we can have to those around us.

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When we are acting from an aligned energetic state everyone takes notice. We are more present, we are more helpful, we are more aligned with living from our heart and our soul. If happiness and joy is a reflection of our heart and our soul the more activities we choose that are in alignment with that the more we can raise our energetic state and live in that regulated nervous systems state.

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In situations where we feel like we don’t need to chase and search for validation and appreciation we can be present. The only thing that we need to focus on is radiating the love of our soul with those around us. That is what the heart-brain coherence can give us. It allows us to experience love on an energetic and physical level. Love isn’t just a romantic thing and it isn’t just a platonic thing. It is an act and a way of being.

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Love takes courage.  Love is bravery. Love is doing something you believe in regardless of fear. Love is a leap of faith. Love is destruction of the ego and chasing an achievement or accolade in search of struggle. Doing that is living from the heart. And by doing so we raise our abilities in all aspects of our life.

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At the end of the day living a life of love is a scary thing. But it is a lot less scary than living in fear of what we are truly capable of. So trust your heart and find those things that make that spark in us explode.