How's Your Heart

How’s your Heart

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Back in January I wrote about expressing our emotions and telling people how we actually feel. So many of us just have a default fine answer to the question, how are we doing? So many of us just live life with our hearts hiding, scared of hurting and expressing how they actually feel, afraid of full expression. We dim our light, our heart, and our soul to fit in. 

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The truth is that you should never have to dim any of those things to truly belong and fit in. But I think the way we ask people how they are doing and what they are up creates environments and scenarios where we dim those parts of us. So I have a better question to allow people to fully express themselves and show the world the warmth of their soul. It’s as simple as asking, how’s your heart?

It’s a question that unconsciously gives people the permission to express themselves fully. It’s a question that lets them know that you care and are there as a support system to help them get through the struggles or to celebrate their wins. It’s an invitation to express and be seen. Not to be seen for our accolades and achievements but for the things we give back to the world. 

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Check in on people’s hearts and the things they do that aren’t always celebrated. Let them know that those parts of them are worth celebrating. They are worth the recognition. They are worth the tears and frustration. Let people be vulnerable and comfortable expressing themselves. Don’t make people feel small for expressing the thing on their mind or the issue that is pulling at their heart and making their soul’s light dim and fade. Let them know how powerful their heart is and what it looks like when they fully express it.

Let them know that that expression of their humanity and personality is what makes them special. Not their job or their trophies accumulated. Check in on people’s hearts. Check in on them not to see how they are doing but to make sure they know that the world needs them to fully express themselves and show up. 

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Ask a friend how their heart is doing and let them show you the majestic radiance that runs deep within them. Let people be seen, heard, and most importantly feel safe when you check in on them so they can tell you how they are actually feeling. Watch how the world changes when you start asking people to check in with their heart. 

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