Who's In Your Corner

Who’s In Your Corner

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Taking a little break from the spirituality and energy related posts to talk about friendships and what our friends say about us. The truth is that our friendships and the people we surround ourselves with are the reflection of who we are. That their interests and hobbies and focuses are a mirror of what we care and focus about and if people see our friends they can learn an awful lot about ourselves. The truth is our friends are the best way for others to get to know us. 

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If we have friends that enjoy going out on a friday night and complaining about their jobs, it is likely that if someone met us that we would be a similar type of person. Or similarly if we meet someone new from a close friend we would assume certain characteristics about them because of the person we met them through. This has happened to me a couple times over the past couple of years. I met a friend through a mutual friend and knew right away that they were a special type of person and that I wanted that friendship to blossom because of the person I met them through and the similar interests that they were able to bring together. And through that friendship I have seen myself grow even more because that friendship pushed me to grow. 

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Our friends help magnify and amplify certain areas of our lives. If you read any of my previous posts on spirituality or energy or self development a lot of those understandings and realizations came from conversations with friends who are interested in like minded pursuits. Those friendships helped me gain a better understanding of my own energy and we would have various conversations on spirituality that gave me a better understanding of my own, which I then used to help write those posts. 

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The truth is our friendships show what we value in life. The type of conversations and interests shared are a gateway into understanding ourselves and what our priorities are. Additionally, friendships improve our lives in some way. We aren’t friends with people just to be friends with them, but because of a mutual understanding of something. Each friend in our life improves some aspect of our life. Maybe they are big into food and adventurous eating and going out to eat with them is a shared experience into understanding something new. While it might not seem like it, this is important because it breaks you out of your comfort zone and challenges yo to try new food and places. That friend, regardless of how close the friendship is, improves a part of your life because you are able to pursue something you enjoy with a friend by your side. 

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Every friendship brings something out in us. They all reflect back a part of us. They all pull us closer towards specific dreams and goals and pursuits. If there is a friendship that brings out a part of us that we no longer align with, maybe it is time to reevaluate that friendship and shift it towards something else. It doesn’t mean that that friendship is bad but maybe that friendship is not aligned with the version of who you are now, and that is ok. Friendships aren’t supposed to last forever. They are snippets and part of our lives that help us learn and grow about specific parts of ourselves. As we evolve and change, so do our friendship and the circle around us changes. 

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But regardless of who is in our circle or who is in our corner we need people who support us. We need people to reflect and mirror our interests. We need people to improve our lives and help challenge ourselves to be the best versions of ourselves. So, look at your circle of friends and what they bring towards your life and maybe consider changing those friendships that are no longer aligned. That doesn’t mean that a friend is a bad friend or person, it just means that you two have gone on different paths and that understanding is fine.

Our friends show us who we are and who we are capable of being, so what does your circle say about you? 

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